Hope everyone is having a good Thursday! Only one day left now before its weekend and I for one can't wait Its been a very long week!:-)
I have been thinking a lot today about acceptance and emotional healing, I have had lot of emails recently from clients that are struggling with feelings of sadness, depression and the feeling that "maybe its too late" and what I tell them is that it is NEVER too late. because it really never is:-) We all fall apart sometimes, that is part fo life, but like the old cliche says "After rain, dawn will come. Trust the dawn, it never fails" It might be a cliche, but I have had so much comfort from that phrase, and it is so true! There is an exit sign,but we need to allow ourselves to believe that the exit sign exists even when we can;t see it.
So what do we do when we find ourselves feeling lost, sad and confused? As everyone probably know by now, I am a firm believer in the power of our thoughts, expectations and inner beliefs, and how important it is to think positive and believe in the future... BUT.., that doesn;t mean that we shouldn't acknowledge our feelings, no matter what they are. It is only by fully allowing ourselves to feel the pain, we can heal from it:-)
I would like to share a personal story of emotional healing.
I did not grow up with both my parents, and my biological father and I have never been very close. He moved abroad when I was very little, and communication was sporadic to say the least, he was also very into the blaming game and blamed my mum for everything that went wrong, and he could even accuse me of not loving him etc if I didn;t call him enough. never mind that I was a 10 year old kid...LOL
Through the years, I tried reconnecting with him, there was a part of me who was still hoping that we could have a normal father and daughter relationship, and last time was about 5 years ago. We had just started talking again for the first time in 5 years, and I was thinking that maybe this time we could actually build a relationship, and I went to visit him and his new family in their new home town. Needless to say, it didn;t work out. It is a very long story, too long to post here really, but when I left there I knew that I would not go and visit him again.
Now, I do have a brother who is a few years younger who I love very much, and we get on great, We share the same father, but have different mothers. He did not grow up with our biological dad either, and our Mums were the ones who made sure we kept in touch when we were little.
About two years ago I was home for Christmas and I met up with my brother and his mum, and when my brother went to do some errands I had a really good conversation with his mum.
She was telling me how much my dad used to miss me when I was little, and how he used to cry and talk about me for hours, and when he did get to see me he just couldn't stop hugging me. When we had that conversation, it was like something inside me just healed, because I knew I had been loved. It is very hard to explain but there was some really profound healing taking place there and then, and since then, I feel that the sadness and regret I used to feel has disappeared. So sometimes healing can be very fast:-)
Anyway, what I am trying to say is that sometimes we do need to allow ourselves to feel sad before it can get better. Crying can actually be healing, and very cleansing, but remember to keep telling yourself just that - that you are letting of go of the hurt and let the love in,
And then do something just for you - a white candle session, a session with your healing egg, or a Milk of Damballah White Bath, and petition that all your hurt is being taken away and replaced with a sense of new hopes and new beginnings in the area of your life you feel that healing is needed.
And remember - it is NEVER too late:-)
Sending everyone loads of hugs,
Light and Love,